“I really need a vacation.”
*Crashing on the weekends*
*Feeling like you need a vacation from your vacation*
“I can’t keep up with this.”
How often have we felt or said these things? We stay so busy it feels like we are running 100mph, only to come crashing down. Whenever I talk through this with someone, and even processing through it on my own, there are so many roadblocks that came up that we think are getting in our way of getting the rest we need.
These deeply held expectations about work levels often go back to our values of what we believe about work, our value and what is expected of us. A big piece that hits all of these things is our belief around what “pace” is acceptable and expected. I want you to take a moment and evaluate that as I say it. “Pace” here covers the rate of work and activity that you think is anticipated and needed.
Picking a good pace instead of “Overwork or Nothing”
Work pace is often the balance that most people struggle with. There is an internalized belief that we must be working ourselves into the ground at all times. Overworking and rest doesn’t have to be an either/or scale though which sometimes we tend to do. Going from working all the time to taking a time of nothing… only to hit the ground running around. What would it be like to find a livable balance where you didn’t have to do that?
This questions can be posed for pace with our families and with ourselves as well. Let’s take a moment and look at what we are saying “yes” to, and remembering, we don’t have to “yes” to everything. It’s often a tendency and feeling like we have to work to feel “approved” and “valued” and it increases our feeling of security, but in the end it puts us in a negative spiral of us constantly trying to fight uphill to reach those goals. Your value and your security doesn’t have to come from how much work you put out! It can come from you personally and find where your value lies, beyond your job.
Here are a few ways to get started!
- Set boundaries around when you will answer work calls or email
- Taking a minute or two between meetings to breathe and slow down
- Establish a coming home routine to help you transition from work to home life
Vacations are still nice and you will may need to crash for part of the weekend, but let’s create lives we don’t have to run away from!